Written from a woman's point of view

Almost all female masturbation techniques will focus on stimulating the clitoris in a variety of ways until orgasm is reached. The best way to go about this task is to find a nice, quiet, private place, such as in a bedroom or where most men and women masturbate, the shower. If you're like me, you usually only resort to masturbation when you feel the need for some release of sexual tension, like when you're horny. Of course, masturbation just plain feels good, and doesn't depend on anyone else's ability to satisfy your needs, so often it is a great way to just let loose and relax. There are three main types of masturbation: manual stimulation involving the hands, water stimulation involving showers and jacuzzi jets, and auxilliary stimulation, involving dildos, vibrators, and other sexual toys. Part of the fun of masturbation is self-discovery though, so use the basic techniques here to discover some of your own more complex and more satisfying techniques.

Getting warmed up

Unless you're in a hurry, the best preparation for masturbation is by first arousing yourself through visual or audible stimuli such as movies, magazines, pictures, or whatever else you can think of. This serves to enhance your experience, and prepares your genitals for the type of further stimulation that you choose. This type of "foreplay" can often increase the tension during masturbation and often causes longer-lasting more intense orgasms.

Manual stimulation

When most people first learn how to masturbate, they do so by stimulating themselves with their hands. For women, the clitoris can be stimulated in a wide variety of ways. The best way for you to learn what works and what doesn't is by experimenting. Try rubbing your clitoris in different ways, or if you find it too sensitive to rub directly, stimulate it indirectly by rubbing around it, on the clitoral hood, vagina, or even the labia. If something doesn't seem to work, try varying the intensity, frequency, and pressure.

Water stimulation

The shower or bathtub is often the most private, most erotic place to get yourself off. Not only do you have your hands, but if you have a removable shower-head you can make use of that too. The running water also serves to lubricate and stimulate your entire body. Try to position yourself so that the water filling the tub is flowing right on your vulva, and brace yourself for a truly intense, erotic experience. If you can't do this, try using your hands to direct the flow of water over your clitoris with your hands. Try adjusting the water temperature or shower-head intensity to your liking, and while making use of your hands you're sure to have an explosive orgasm.

If you have access to a private jacuzzi or are alone in a public one, try experimenting with the water jets. Be careful though, they are often high-pressure so start off far away from them and move yourself in closer until you find the intensity that feels the best.

Sex toys

There are many types of things you can use for stimulation. Probably the most common type of toy is the dildo. They are usually made out of rubber or plastic, and often come on the shape of a penis. They are available in a wide variety of sizes, and they don't necessarily have to be huge to deliver the most pleasure. One purpose for dildos is to simulate intercourse, the type of intercourse you could have with a partner if they did everything that YOU want them to do. Again, the best way to find out what will get you off the best is to experiment with one, stimulating the clitoris in a variety of ways both directly and indirectly. You can also experiment with anal masturbation by using a dildo, and if you've never tried it but would like to experiment, using a dildo in your own privacy can be the best way.

Vibrators are another toy. These are often much like dildos, except they have electric motors that make them vibrate. These are much more versatile because the vibrating action can be applied to the clitoris, the entire vulva, the breasts and nipples, and on any part of your body that is sensitive to erotic stimulation. For an even more stimulating adventure, try using them in combination with other forms of manual stimulation.

There are many other types of sexual toys available in novelty shops and more discreetly, online sex shops. If you see something that appeals to you, try it out!

Cooling off

Once you've reached orgasm, you will probably want to take a few moments to savor the feeling and give your body a chance to return to normal. Or, if you are capable of multiple orgasms, you could start stimulating yourself again and again!

This morning I just wrote an articical called Female Masturbation in my new blog Ramblings Of The Heart.  <<----- Click on link to get there.

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Matt,
Thanks so much for writing this article! You did a great job. It helped me a lot in learning how to masturbate better.
Last night it only took me only 1 minute maybe less, from the time I started to orgasm! What an orgasm it was too!!
Thanks to YOU I can do that now! 

((HUGS))

GothicLover

there's no such thing as normal....well alright like 4 is abnormal.....but no, averages maybe...but no normal

curious 24, make sure you urinate before you get started so that will ease your mind.  Sometimes it does feel like I'm about to pee when I have one, so you are probably getting very close to the good part...

dear curiosgeorgina, there is no such time for a girl or a boy to start masturbations habits.
TABOO: There is not a good sex education from parents to children. To begin to know about your own sexuality you should masturbate to experience the sensations and response of your body.
If you open your mind to it you will learn a lot.. Don't worry you are not doing anything wrong or bad, you will be getting to know yourself better.
Have a Good Time and Enjoy

I would recomend a vibrator dildo, something you can insert in and rub . play along with it, alternate the stimulation and try to concentrate on your clit area, It's NORMAL to prefer to masturbate with your fingers inside.
Every one has a different way to do it, according to your body response.
By the way a lot of men would rather have sex with a girl who knows how to ride on top. Belive me.

What ever works for you. But exploring and experimenting is the best part. You will find new sensations.

What about getting the G Spot invovled that too can lead on to many pleasurabe fingerings !

well i bought my girlfriend a vibrator about a year ago it was like 30 bucks (batteries not included neither did they had them at the store) you can actually control how fast it vibrates...obviously if you go too fast it will vibrate as loud as a cell phone...so you may wanna keep vibration not too intense unless you want your mom grounding you...concerning age restrictions i think that sex shops will ID' you if you look too young, by the way i have a buddy in Georgia who bought her vibo at a Spencer's and she was underage at that time so thats a good store for you to try

sigh, i can only really masturbate like that too. my clit is very sensitive and if my bf touches it with his fingers i push him away by reflex or else start laughing, its the oddest thing, its like its extremely ticklish. i love G-spot orgasms though so i like sex a lot. It helps to know what works and what doesnt, but wasting time having sex isnt that bad.

Spencer's does sell them pretty cheap; I think they're between $6- 12 depending on what size you want. They shouldn't ask about the age either. I was going to buy my friend one for her birthday after the time when I gave her a glue stick when she spent the night. It was one of the only items i could find that I wouldn't mind not getting back, but then she complained that it was too small. So I think I'll have to make sure I get her one of the bigger ones  .

I work at Spencer's and most of ours are $9.99. Some stores don't ask but ours does sometimes. I think, for the most part, it'll be alright.

Hi,
I have only ever been able to achive orgasm through the use of a vibrator.
I've tried masturbating with my own two hands, manual stimulation with a partner, oral stimulation with a partner, and different sex positions. All this feels good, but I can never reach orgasm through any of these 'normal' techniques, only the vibrator. Is this normal??
I would like to be able to climax without the use of a vibrator, but I'm not sure if this is possible. I am worried that there is something wrong with me because of this.
Please advise!

  my vibrator broke so this post was like really helpful but is it normal to only cum with the use of a vibe or one of those massaging shower heads ???

I think hisbabygurl had some trouble with the marquee thing:
this was what she said:


It's perfectly normal to be masturbating at you're age. 3 times a week? Some girls do it everyday....it's a crazy world some would say, but you're not strange for doing what you do. as for the shower head stuff, i'll wait for another post for someone to answer you!!

A large percentage of women don't have orgasms during intercourse.  Vibrators and other toys are often the most consistent orgasm givers for many women (I like the store: PleasureMeNow dot com). Many men don't recognize how much foreplay and then sexual stimulation most women need. Most men don't understand women have two kinds of orgasms: clitoral and g-spot (sometimes called vaginal orgasm).  Most couples need to communicate more and experiment more to find the sexual stimulation type, intensity and amount they both need.  We women need to learn about our complex sexual bodies.  At least it fun work!   

My wife masturbates often but she does not tell me about it, proving that she finds it a taboo subject, however she organised our new bathroom this year with a nice big walk in shower, to my advantage she had all the doors including the bathroom door fitted with a glass fancy panel with a pull down blind on the bathroom. So a few months ago after this new bathroom was finished I popped upstairs for something about 15 mins after my wife had gone for her shower when i noticed the small gap between the blind and the door, I kneel down and was so shocked to see her leaning on the tiled wall almost facing me with the new powershower head forcing water on her clit, I became erect so quickly as I watched her have orgasm after orgasm her moans were getting me even closer to the point where I also started to masturbate, so I now look forward to her evening shower so much, should I tell her or just keep enjoying the show. 

WTF? This is your wife?
Good to see you are both so open and honest with each other...

For some reason, I haven't been able to get off anywhere other than in the shower. The technique above of using the faucet works very well, though it's kind of awkward to lay down in the tub. But whenever I go for fingers or anything, I just end up feeling dumb. I just don't turn myself on, I guess.

Even if it didn't get me off, I'd do the faucet thing anyway because it's the only way I can feel like my pussy's really clean, inside and out (ha!). Sometimes I'll also use soap on the outside of my pussy, but I have to wash it off quick because it "tastes" funny...any girl who's washed her pussy knows what I mean.

So yeah...my point was the faucet thing is good for keeping yourself clean, too.

when i fingering or have sex with my g/f, shes has those clitoral orgasms, me and her do take showers together, would that shower massager really work?