simple, candles and lots of them. watch him light them which will get him in the mood and from what you have said close to orgasm (possible multi) and that is one of the safer ways to play with fire. (note: safer not safe) fire is a dangerous thing blah blah blah etc. just have the fire station on speed dial and that way after they put out one fire they can put out yours (they can be so hot) and if a match turns you on then tell him to get a blowtorch (portable) and that way he has to be there for it to work and it is great control of fire

ps. i take no responsibility of turning your bf into a pyro

Is there a difference?

I also wanted to add that sometimes pyromania is a result of being sexually abused, as well as other types of abuse and trauma, generally during childhood.  There's a ton of info on the internet about this, so I was surprised that no one mentioned that in this discussion yet. 

Here is a little info about Pyromania from:  www.bmhcc.org
"Pyromania centers on setting fires. Most children go through a stage where they like to see fire. This is normal. If they are taught about fire safety, supervised children can assist adults around a campfire. Some children still manage to sometimes sneak away and play with fire. This is frightening, but it is not a psychiatric disorder. Pyromania is something different.

People have pyromania only if they meet all of these signs. They:
* set fires on purpose more than once,
* are very tense or very excited before setting the fire,
* seem fascinated or attracted by fire and objects, people, or situations around fire, and
* experience pleasure or relief when setting or watching fires.

A person with pyromania does not set fires for money, to express political beliefs, to hide signs of a crime, or to show anger. It is not pyromania if someone sets a fire in response to a delusion or hallucination. It is also not pyromania if the person setting the fire is in the manic phase of bipolar disorder, has a conduct disorder, or has an antisocial personality disorder. A true pyromaniac just likes fire.

Most pyromaniacs are male. Although children set a lot of fires, pyromania usually occurs in adolescence or adulthood. People with this disorder may have poor social skills. Many have learning problems. Pyromaniacs tend to plan in advance to start fires. Many of them like to watch any fire they can. They may like to set off fire alarms. People with pyromania often do not seem to care about the loss of property, the injuries, or even the deaths that result from fires.

Pyromania is extremely dangerous to the person with the disorder as well as to others. If you suspect that someone you care about may have pyromania, ask your primary healthcare provider for a referral to a mental health professional as soon as possible."

I also wanted to add that sometimes pyromania is a result of being sexually abused, as well as many other types of abuse and trauma.  There's a ton of info on the internet about this, so I was surprised that no one mentioned that in this discussion yet.  But, that is a more serious topic than what is being discussed here I think.  Just getting your thrills from watching someone else light a fire does not qualify one as a pyromaniac.  no worries

Ooh well, I wouldn't say it's more "harnessing the power of fire" or whatnot, but I do like watching my man light a cigarette. It's sexy to me.